Why are face-to-face communications skills important? Remember, there is no emotion, body language, tone or facial expression in a written communication. Social networking is really about the written word and many in the industry have come to rely on this for their primary communication links. Even communication on the telephone lacks many of the tools you use in face-to-face meetings. Firms that use Skype, Microsoft Lync or Go To Meeting bridge many of the communication barriers but are in no way equal to a face-to-face encounter. The fear factor is higher when we are asked to present to a group or even an individual. Whether you are just starting out in the business deveopment arena or a seasoned professional who could benefit from improved client communications, this article is for you.
Today, I want to review the three skills that are essential for
building trusting relationships with clients.
The first skill is your voice. I had an economics professor in college who
made a boring class absolutely intolerable because of the tone of his
voice. He had a monotone cadence and
would cough or clear his throat after every other sentence. The pitch of some voices brings the same
reaction as scratching on a chalk board.
If this is you, you need to practice voice control. You could find a voice coach or simply
contact your local Toastmaster club for assistance. Improve your voice and you will see immediate results in client reaction to your presentations.
Are you an introvert, shy or quiet person? None of these qualifies you to be a poor
speaker. You just need to expand your
comfort zone. Speaking with a client
requires a clear and strong voice. This
is not to be confused with shouting.
Listen to great speakers and learn how they project their words. A simple search of YouTube will get you on
the right track.
Confidence is the second skill you must master. Why would your client give you a million
dollar deal, if she doesn’t believe what you are telling her? Are you afraid to look the client in the eyes
when you are making your presentation? The
client is more likely to give you careful attention when you make it a point to
make eye contact first. However, you don’t
want to get into a staring contest. Look
down to take a note or remove something from your briefcase. This makes it easier for the client to pay attention
to you because she has had a chance to check you out without having to do so
while listening to you. Are you excited
about what your firm has to offer, or does
your facial expression remind the client of someone who has just gotten out of
bed?
Confidence in what you are presenting will make the client
more interested in selecting your firm than you are in selling it. Understanding the nuances of the client’s
business, the industry, and market is
the beginning of your homework. How he
thinks and reacts to pressure points is probably the hardest area to
quantify. However, when you have done
all of the required homework, your confidence will soar. Remember what legendary basketball coach Bob
Knight has to say about preparation, “The key is not the "will to
win" . . . everybody has that. It is the will to prepare to win that is
important.”
Remember, you client likes you or you wouldn’t have been
given the opportunity to stand in front of him or her to make the presentation. The same is true when you have been asked to
make a presentation in front of a group.
Finally, you don’t want your body language to betray you or sabotage
your message. Experts tell us body language accounts for between 55% and 65% of
our communication. Just what is body
language? It is carriage, facial expressions, and gestures. All go into
establishing your presence and making a connection with the audience. Gestures
can be made with your hands, arms, shoulder, torso, legs, feet or a combination
of these but hand gestures are probably the most common. What does the client
think of your message when you present it with your arms crossed against your
chest? If you are confident, why are you
slouching and not standing tall? Many speakers worry about their hands and keep them in their pockets. However, appropriate
use of your hands can result in a marked increase in the understanding and
retention of your message. Correctly used, hand gestures can help you say more
in less time, show what you mean without having to resort to visuals, signal
your conviction and confidence and add texture and dimension to your material
and ideas.
This might seem simplistic but don’t forget to smile. In fact, you should practice pleasant expressions
in front of a mirror. Try it until you
see one you like and then hold it for 15 seconds and repeat it. Remind yourself of this expression as you go
about your daily business until it becomes a memory. The conditions that surround you during a
client presentation or speech in front of a large group can be uncertain and
frightening. But, this memory will keep
your expression pleasant and positive.
Whether you are presenting to one person or a hundred, you
still have to deal with nerves. Everyone
gets nervous before a major presentation.
My simple advice: Take a breath!
I went with my wife to a Lamaze class when we were expecting
our first child. I still remember the
breathing exercises that were intended to calm the mother during childbirth. Similar breathing exercises are used by
public speakers because they release fear, lower stress levels and enhance their speaking voice.
Incorporating these tips into your client presentations or
speeches in front of groups will help you be more effective and enable your
message to be understood clearly. The bottom line to clear client communications is the bottom line.